{"id":1357,"date":"2020-03-07T10:29:31","date_gmt":"2020-03-07T03:29:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/illume-emag.com\/?p=1357"},"modified":"2020-03-07T10:29:31","modified_gmt":"2020-03-07T03:29:31","slug":"getting-stressed-ultimately-pointless","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lavyon.com\/en\/getting-stressed-ultimately-pointless\/","title":{"rendered":"Why getting stressed is, ultimately, pointless"},"content":{"rendered":"
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A worker feels the stress at a firm – PHOTO: REUTERS<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Not to say, it won\u2019t happen. Not everyone looks at things in the same way. We all view everything informed by our own personality\/wants\/objectives: Success; relationships; the point of everything. Some people are driven by money and\/or greed; some are driven by ambition and\/or vanity; some people just want to get through it all with the least fuss and by making the fewest waves possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Depending on the day, I\u2019m all of these.<\/p>\n

Today, it was just trying to get through it all. Starting my second job in three weeks will start Tuesday, hot on the heels of my mother-in-law moving back to Bac Ninh and my daughter getting a high fever all weekend. Granny left yesterday and my wife had to work a half-day and, like I said, I had one kid running a high fever. And on top of all this, I had this mountain of work from my new job looming in the back of my mind, coloring the whole thing as if Monday would be even worse when Sunday ended.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s the point. Nothing ever gets better. Or worse. It simply IS.<\/p>\n

Turnips<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be 44 in July. That day were everything gets easier\/less hectic\/more relaxed? Yeah, I gave up on that lie years ago. Unless you are a turnip, you are likely to undergo some life-altering situations. Even turnips have those; they get harvested and (some of you) eat them. The turnip may not even be aware of this situation, or that it is even a turnip. It simply grows one day, and is eaten the next. How many of you have attended a wake for a turnip? Very few, I expect. And the turnip is OK with that.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not trivializing everyday life, far from it. But we\u2019ve all got our problems. The companies I work for\/have worked for\/will work for all have different dramas that need to be dealt with\/quelled\/overcome, as has any person or venture ever in the history of commerce. How much you choose to let your COMPANY\u2019S drama color your own perspective is on you.<\/p>\n

I got the front page photo in by deadline. I finished writing the Grade 6 science exam before deadline. If you really want to turn back the clock, I handed in the book report before lunch.<\/p>\n

The more of these little hurdles you overcome, the less emotional you become about them as you age. I\u2019m not saying you shouldn\u2019t assign importance to each of them; rather, the amount of importance you choose is what warrants examination.<\/p>\n

Baby has a fever<\/strong><\/p>\n

My daughter has had fevers before. In fact, during my time in Vietnam, I\u2019ve discovered what wouldn\u2019t raise an eyebrow in Canada is considered a minor emergency here. And each time, she\u2019s pulled through.<\/p>\n

Whenever a deadline loomed, the paper always made it to press. Whenever the education officials gave us a due date for the ESL books I worked on, they got done.<\/p>\n

The difference is, a book or a front page or an email or a tax return simply aren\u2019t life-or-death issues. My daughter running a fever far outweighs any of these, and there are people reading this now who\u2019ve dealt with far worse.<\/p>\n

The upshot of all this? Stress is, ultimately, a WASTE OF TIME.<\/p>\n

Some of you will disagree. You\u2019ll ask: Without it, why do anything? Why lift more weights, or chase promotions, or learn that new pose in yoga class? Where will all my DRAMA come from?<\/p>\n

Dealing with stressed-out people\/shouters<\/strong><\/p>\n

And this is the key distinction: For many, STRESS and DRAMA are the same thing. Without stress, what would we all have to complain about? What would keep us up at night? Or use as a crutch to shout at other people when we can\u2019t process it all?<\/p>\n

Think, for a moment, about your relationship with stress. What has it driven you to do? How have you dealt with it? How has it made you deal with others when you\u2019re having a \u201cbad day?\u201d<\/p>\n

The most infuriating thing I do to people who are using stress as a reason to give me a hard time is KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS. It\u2019s unbelievably infuriating to someone who clearly wants a confrontation to then soak them in happy sunshine. They know how much of an A-hole they\u2019ll end up looking like when it\u2019s being a prick to someone who\u2019s been nothing but nice to them (whether it\u2019s sincere or not).<\/p>\n

Of course, in some companies, they\u2019ll still find a way to get you fired so this plan of attack may not work for every situation.<\/p>\n

End of story, stress is RELATIVE. YOU can choose how much or how little it affects you. I was all set to write myself a 16-year plan to get through parenting and adult life today, but I just saw it as too much work. Some people will go out of their way to dwell on useless crap; others will coast through life without making a ripple or offending a soul. All of them, however, still deal with some degree of stress. The moment they realize the futility of it all is when they\u2019re most likely to some degree of happiness.<\/p>\n

Source: The Saigon Times<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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