There is no doubting that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter in law has always been, more or less, fraught with complications. The story of two special women in the family has yet come to an end. There will always be a mother-in-law who is dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law, and a bride who is concerned about her second mother.
The mother-in-law is discussed in movies, in real life, in office gossip, in a group of close friends’ conversation, or in the chat of the neighbours… Of course, there are happy and sad stories, but will mother-in-law continue to worry women on their path to become a wife and daughter-in-law in a family?
Women now are different than they were in the past. Possibly because they have the right to choose, the connection with their mothers-in-law is less stressful than it used to be. Today’s story about mothers-in-law makes people wonder if the daughter-in-law is frightened of her mother-in-law or if the mother-in-law is having to lower herself in front of her daughter-in-law.
Women now have more opportunities to assert their abilities than ever before in modern life. Young women are increasingly establishing their worth and positioning themselves in society.
Modern women are both attractive and financially independent, and they strive for equality in marriage. Everyone, even mothers-in-law, must adapt with social advancement.
Going to any morning market and listening to the hustle and bustle of the new day, you may hear something like this:
– I go out for exercising. By the way, I also head to the market to get breakfast for the couple.
– Yesterday Tit had a fever, and his mother stayed up all night, so I got a bowl of pho for my daughter-in-law to eat.
If you have time to visit the Central Obstetrics and Gynaecology Hospital (Hanoi Obstetrics and Gynaecology), you will witness hundreds of mothers-in-law on duty every day for their daughters-in-law and grandchildren in the maternity department.
Getting married, having children, and perpetuating the family lineage are all essential factors for picking a daughter-in-law, and many brides have to bite the bullet when they cannot bear a boy or have the reputation of a barren woman. Nowadays, when subjective and objective factors are progressively impacting maternal health, maternity wards in hospitals daily encounter numerous cases that require nursing care, but hopefully, the nearby caregivers are the mothers-in-law.
There are several situations where the daughter-in-law must lie motionless, the fetus is low, the uterus is open, and the fetus can slip out just by breathing hard. So the families on both sides, particularly the mother-in-law, have to take care of their daughter-in-law, including taking care of her daughter-in-law’s meal, and there are mothers-in-law who do not mind assisting their daughter-in-law with cleaning and bathing.
Stepping into such circumstance, it appears that both the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law who soon will become a mother sympathize and understand the woman’s pain, which helps them to love and bond further.
There are also mothers-in-law who protect their daughters-in-law to the best of their abilities, and they are willing to replace their daughters-in-law to resolve family issues and handle inappropriate relationships that endanger their children’s emotions. They also establish the necessary conditions for the daughter-in-law to feel at ease when first coming to her husband’s home, assist the daughter-in-law in her professional development, and fulfil her filial responsibility to both sides’ families.
Today’s mothers-in-law schedule their daily timetable according to their children. They take the initiative to care for their daughter-in-law, attempting to remove the barrier that exists between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in order to nourish their family and children.
In fact, the story of mothers-in-law being harshly strict with daughters-in-law still exists, but there are also lovely stories of the mother-in-law caring for her daughter-in-law, which makes us feel admiring such moms. They overcame biases in their hearts and integrated with modern life to become modern moms.
The mother-in-law connection is held together through love and empathy. There are women who have done an excellent job of adjusting their relationship with their daughters-in-law because they recognize that they were once married, went through ups and downs, and put up with marriage and family for decades, and now they want their next generation to inherit and promote.
And, just as mothers-in-law have opened their hearts to welcome love, modern daughters-in-law should also do the same. No matter how much life develops, family, the root cell of the society, should also be nourished by the love and affection of these women themselves.
TU QUYNH