Follow these guides and learn why setting your boundaries is so important to your well-being.
Setting your boundaries can be quite frightening at first, mostly because we are afraid we might put our relationships in jeopardy, and risk the time and effort of building that relationship back on its feet again. Another reason is that we are not used to standing up for ourselves, the fear of confrontation can explain why people avoid doing it in the first place. These are the few surface reasons why people are so discouraged from creating boundaries.
There is nothing wrong with setting your own boundaries, we all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity no matter where we are in life. We will definitely know who is actually there for us when we start establishing our boundaries in our lives, do not be frightened as some people start leaving your life when you put it up, as they aren’t meant to accompany you on your journey any more. If they respect you as a person, they would not have any problems acknowledging your boundaries and adjusting themselves accordingly.
There are many ways for you to build and preserve better boundaries, boundaries can be physical to emotional and they also can range from being moderate to strong, with healthy boundaries lying somewhere in between.
As you grow older, it is important to learn why setting your boundaries is so important everywhere you go, since this will establish the guidelines on how people are going to treat you in the long run.
Boundaries can be flexible, each person has a different set of limitations that you should not cross. However, the most important thing that you should know is they are there to protect you from harm, not by inflicting harm on you. Despite how flexible they are, boundaries do not compromise themselves in an unhealthy way.
When you don’t learn how to properly establish them, people are going to take advantage of you or see how they can mistreat you as the norm. You can start by making soft boundaries and slowly build up to stronger boundaries as time went on.
There are many ways for you to start, one of the more common ways for your to begin is learning how to say “no”. Doing this will save you the hassle of going through unwanted situations, avoiding yourself from your draining mental energy, and conserving it for the rest of the day.
People around you will also learn that it’s not ok for them to do this to you, and gradually stop asking you to do tasks that violate your personal boundaries.
You should also learn how to effectively communicate with others as well, being able to clearly get your point across so people around you can understand where you are coming from, thus enhancing your performance.
It’s one thing for people to respect your boundaries but must learn how to respect others’ boundaries as well despite how different it is from your personal belief. Treat others the way you want them to treat yourself, and respect others so others can respect you. If you are still a bit confused about other people’s boundaries, you can observe what makes them uncomfortable or directly ask them.
It may take some time and thought to figure out which boundaries are most important to you and how to put them in place, but your mental health will thank you in the end. Never be afraid of setting your boundaries or even regret setting them up for your well-being, it’s a long process but it is definitely worth it.